Saturday, June 16, 2007

12:26 PM...............................................................................


Went for Play! A symphony orchestra conducted by arnie roth at the esplanade yesterday. Was sitting at the 2nd row, so besides the great music, i get to visually feast at the "cute" cellist and violinist on stage. And boy were they cute. haha.
There's this cellist who looks REALLY like reen's mum. Scared the daylights out of me.
I prefer watching the older and more seasoned musicians (who are usually seated in front). It's a joy to see them play their instrument. That intensity and passion just gets to you.
I also noticed that people who play cello and violin look very different. Very much like how the girls in business/arts fac differ from the science fac girls. But they're both equally beautiful.
The conductor turns round to talk alot. So i was literally staring up at his nostrils.
But besides that, i really enjoyed myself. The symphony sounded like heaven.

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Just read a in today's Saturday ST titled: Time to give single mums by choice a chance?

Quote: "Many single woman well-educated and successful, who had assumed they would
cross the milestones of love, marriage and motherhood - except that their life journeys somehow bypassed the first two. Other than adoption there are woman choosing to bear their own children without men by their side. Is becoming single mother the solution for woman who want children but cannot find the right mate? Is it time society becomes more accepting of such family units?"

Mr Lee was asked to comment on this matter a week ago. He recounted the experience of sg, where the asian male was reluctant to marry a more successful female.

And i quote the article quoting him

"You are reproducing the next generation excluding your best mothers for the next generation. It's like taking the best cows or best mares out of the population pool. It doesn't make sense. In the West, they are now encouraging single parenthood, woman have children without husbands. That's one solution. I am not sure Singapore society is ready for that. But maybe that's better than having no children from intelligent woman"

Ok. Besides the cows and mares part. I agree with Mr Lee. Some kids, better than no kids. (We can't fall back on the immigration policy forever. before you know it, there'll be no sg left to talk about.) But then again, i also believe that single parenthood is selfish and unfair to the child. However, the article pointed out yet another valid point.

"but one should not confuse single motherhood with single-adult household. In Singapore, it is unlikely that a single woman who chooses to have a child will be raising the kid single-handedly. The household may include members of her extended family or a significant partner"

There's just something not right about breaking up the basic social unit. Somehow. I know deep inside that a child is best raised in a family, as how God made it to be. (ok. i'm leaving religion out of this).
Objectively speaking, I feel that single motherhood is viable. Just difficult for both the mother and the kid.
Difficult, but feasible.